Anonymous asked: If your boyfriend was getting with random girls behind your back whilst drunk, would you want to know? :/ You seem so lovely and stunning and clever - you deserve so much better. I hate to write this over an anon message but you need to know, its better knowing early than before its too late! Sorry love x

this was sent to me anonymously a long time ago now. i’m not going to defend my relationship or share any details thats noones business. what this person needs to know is this really upset me a lot at the time. i questioned my relationship, my boyfriend and myself all because someone thought this was an appropriate way to contact me? if you have something you feel i need to know, you genuinely care about me and my wellbeing, then don’t hide behind an anon tumblr post? all that does is cause drama and grief, you might be someone i know, someone my boyfriend knows or just some random shit stirrer but this is really cruel and vague and the kind of internet drama expected of a schoolchild. I trust my boyfriend, I trust people i know to look out for me and not cause this drama and most importantly i trust myself and my judgment not to be swayed by some anon message. 

People should watch Girls.

It is so good, am I on my own here? It is the best thing on TV and I don’t care if it’s been hyped up, and then once it’s gained popularity it’s been criticized, by the whole world, it’s still amazing and i still don’t know anyone who watches it who i can talk about it with. I am so in love with Jessa and wish I was her, and Hannah is just so gorgeous and funny and sexy even though she’s a little bit chubby and mean. I love it.

Django Unchained

When I fist came out the cinema I thought it was pretty good, but mainly my thoughts were it wasn’t Tarentino’s best. Bust the past few days I’ve been thinking about it and that film was so good, there were so many good scenes and brilliant acting I actually really want to go and see it all again so it can sink in better.

back on tumblr.

woooo. now to find something interesting to blog about.

Anonymous asked: Charlotte, have you seen Martha Marcy May Marlene? It kind of put me in mind of Dogtooth, the film you mention a while back.

I have yeah it’s good, I can see what you mean about the similarities, in Martha may I like how you see the cult through flashbacks and dream sequences, think I preferred dogtooth though.

It takes the piss

Train fares are constantly rising yet this week alone it’s taken me 3 hours to get home from work on Tuesday night due to delays with the service and this morning, on a weekday morning, only one ticket office is open with both ticket machines out of order, and a woman making a long enquiry at the desk means a massive queue of commuters and travellers missing their trains. Travelling by train is expensive, and for the price you pay it should be more reliable and efficient.

I would

love to just pack my bags one day and go and live by a beach and have a simple life.

Unbelievable that people with mental health problems

will post pictures of their self harm scars and tell the world their innermost personal problems via social networking sites. Not wanting to sound completely insensitive and cruel but it comes across as a little attention-seeking, I don’t really understand how exposing yourself like that to strangers will help you. I have seen and experienced what depression, ocd and mental health issues can do to a person and it is an extremely evil disease that I think is easy to dismiss as being ‘attention seeking’, which is not what I am merely trying to say. I also know how all-consuming these problems are to the sufferers and I know the shame that these people feel so I can somewhat understand if blogging about your experiences and problems can be therapeutic, as it’s opening up and being truthful to the world (so long as these people have also gone down the appropriate route of seeking professional help as well).

Having said that, if you post really personal details of your problems and pictures then you are opening yourself up to the extent where horrible people on the internet can take advantage of your vulnerability and make you feel even worse about yourself. Without sounding like an old woman, it also bothers me that social networking sites such as Tumblr are used by young teenagers who are very impressionable and it’s so easy for them to stumble across this stuff and kind of glamorize it as normal behavior to deal with teenage angst.

I suppose what really bothers me (and I’ve mentioned this before) is we live in an age where the majority seem to find it acceptable to constantly tweet, post and blog their lives to the extent where we have no secrets; where serious things like mental health issues are subdued and watered down to normality, where you find out an old schoolmate has died by the rush of ‘R.I.P’ status’s, and we comfort eachother not by talking about our problems with our close friends and family but with people commenting ‘love you babe always here for you xxxx’. But the truth is, we are not there for one another via the means of social networking, it is a detached state. Think about it, you receive some awful news, if you bumped into an old work college you weren’t close to, and had not seen in about 3 years, would it be the first thing you tell them? Of course not, but social media makes it acceptable somehow.

People always say that films and violent video games and access to pornography are desensitizing the younger generations, but really what hope do we have when some see it as acceptable to share your problems, your anxieties and your sorrows through the means of social networking before even sitting down and talking to someone face to face about it. It is this behavior that desensitizes people, and to those with mental health problems, the skewed responses you get off people on the internet may make it more likely you loose greater touch with reality and find it harder at times to overcome your obstacles. Think before you post, please.